How to make decisions in life. What does it mean to Make a Decision? Be guided by principles in your decision

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How to make a decision when in doubt? This is a very important question. After all, our whole life is actually a string of decisions made on the simplest and most complex issues. And each previous decision determines what subsequent new questions life will pose to us and what opportunities will open up before us. It’s strange that the school spent so much time on trigonometry, but did not give any instructions on such an important issue...

I have several faithful assistants - proven techniques that have helped me out many times and helped me make the right decision. I learned some techniques at trainings on personal growth, some are from the works of great philosophers, and some were suggested to me... by my grandmother.

Sometimes it gets a little scary how even the simplest decision can change our destiny. Here is an example from life:

The girl was invited to a party during the week. She was thinking whether to go or not to go. Tired after work. Plus there's an important presentation tomorrow morning. Still, I DECIDED to go. And as a result, I met my love. She got married and gave birth to her beloved children. She has found her happiness and often asks herself what her fate would have been like if she had not gone to that party.

So, the continuation of the scenario of our life depends on our every decision, even the smallest one.

In this context, I like the film with Jim Carrey in leading role Always say yes" If you haven't seen this film, I highly recommend watching it. Few people know that the comedy is based on the biographical book of British writer Danny Wallace, who answered only “YES” to all offers for 6 months. The writer even starred in the film in the “bachelorette party” scene in a cameo role.

So, back to our main question: “How to make the right decision when in doubt?”.

Techniques on how to make the right decision when in doubt.

1st method “Intuition”.

All subsequent techniques are very important, but the role of intuition should not be underestimated in any case. You have noticed that most often we immediately know and feel what to do. I, for example, I tell myself: “Listen. What is your stomach telling you? You need to listen to your inner voice. But if this does not help, I use several simple and proven techniques.

In fact, this is folk wisdom, which is the quintessence of the experience of many previous generations our ancestors. They have been noticing certain causes and effects for thousands of years. And they passed this knowledge on from generation to generation. So, my grandmother told me, if you have doubts, you don’t know what decision to make, ask the two closest people for advice. Grandmother said that through them the Angels tell you the best decision for you.

This method can to some extent be called a consequence of the previous method: if your Angel cannot “reach out” to you with the right decision through intuition, then he passes it on through the people closest to you.

3rd method “Descartes square for decision making”.

The essence of this simple technique is that the problem or issue must be considered from 4 different sides. After all, we often get hung up on one question: what will happen if THIS HAPPENS? Or, what will I get if I DO THIS? But you need to ask yourself not 1, but 4 questions:

• What will, if this will happen? (pros of this).
• What will, if this NOT will happen ? (pros of not getting it).
• What Will not, if this will happen? (disadvantages of this).
• What Will not, if this will NOT happen? (disadvantages of not getting this).

To make it clearer, you can ask the questions a little differently:

4th technique “Expanding choice”.

This is a very important technique. Often we become fixated on only one choice, “YES or NO,” “Do or Don’t,” and in our persistence we forget to consider all other options. For example, whether to buy this particular car on credit or not. If not, then continue to take the metro. Because we focus only on the “YES or NO” option, we forget about other options. For example, an alternative to taking the subway could be buying an inexpensive car. And no longer on credit.

5th method Jose Silva “Glass of water”.

This is an amazing, effective, working technique. Its author is Jose Silva, who became famous around the world for the Silva Method he developed.– complex psychological exercises. This is how you should do the exercise. Before going to bed, take a glass of clean, unboiled water with both hands (you can take mineral water), close your eyes and formulate a question that requires a solution. Then drink about half of the water in small sips, repeating to yourself approximately the following words: “This is all I need to do in order to find the right solution.” Open your eyes, put the glass with the remaining water near the bed and go to bed. In the morning, drink your water and thank you for the right decision. The solution may clearly “come” immediately in the morning after waking up, or it may dawn in the middle of the day. The decision will come like a flash and it will become completely incomprehensible, as could be doubted. This is it, the right decision.

6th technique “Stick to your basic priorities”

The technique is based on the ideas of philosophers Ancient Greece. “Ataraxia” is equanimity, calmness. It is achieved when a person correctly distributes the value system. After all, most often a person is restless and suffers from not getting what he wants.

The key to achieving happiness is very simple: you need to be happy with what you have and not desire what you cannot have! (Aldous Huxley)

The wise Greeks distributed the IMPORTANCE of values ​​and their basic priorities as follows:

• Natural and Natural Values like, water and food.
• Values ​​are natural, but not quite natural, dictated by the sociality of all people, for example, the value of having higher education and other similar stereotypical values. You can free yourself from most of these values.
• Values ​​are not natural and not natural. This is fame, success, veneration, wealth. This is the opinion of others, condemnation from the outside. Or, conversely, excessive praise. You can easily say goodbye to these values!

So, when you want to get something when making a decision, analyze according to the above classification whether you really need it or these are not natural and natural values ​​imposed on you by the stereotypes of society. Don't think about what others will think, but at the same time be sure that your decision will not harm anyone.

7th technique “Wait”.

When making important and long-term solutions, it is important to get rid of emotions. For example, in relationships with loved ones or if you want to change jobs, but are afraid of change.

Sometimes, to make the right decision, you just have to wait. You know that impulsive desires are often difficult to deal with. At the same time, if you wait a little, the desire may disappear on its own. And what seemed a prime necessity yesterday seems completely unnecessary today. No wonder they say: “I need to sleep with this thought.”

To get rid of emotions, you can use an exercise called “10/10/10”. We need to answer the question “How will I feel about this in 10 hours/10 months/10 years?”

Summary.

You got the answer to the question, how to make a decision when in doubt? And now you have to make your choice. When making a decision it is important:

• turn off emotions;
• listen to intuition;
• ask advice from 2 closest people;
• consider other options, expand the choice;
• evaluate all the PROS and CONS on the issues of Descartes Square;
• assess whether the decision contradicts your basic principles;
• if possible, postpone the decision, wait, “sleep with this thought” using the “Glass of Water” technique.

In all other circumstances, always be confident in yourself and in your dreams, don't give up, be optimistic. Do not think about what others will think, but at the same time, your decision will be correct only when, after making it, you will have peace of mind and you will be sure that you are not harming anyone and are not going against your principles.

Don’t be afraid, make your decision, even if it turns out to be wrong, because “No one stumbles while lying in bed” (Japanese wisdom)!

I wish you inspiration and a lot of strength for all your plans and decisions!

There comes a time in every person's life when he some serious decision needs to be made, which can greatly change his fate. As a rule, if a person realizes the difficulty of his situation, then making such decisions is very difficult. It's easy to make fateful decisions when you don't think or when you don't understand what. What can a person who understands his situation and is faced with the need to make a difficult decision find support? I invite you to think with me about possible answers to this question.

Give yourself time

To make any decision you need time. And it’s good if we are for these purposes allocate it to ourselves. In the old days, sages could deliberately retire in order to better concentrate on some important issue. Now the pace of our lives is so great that stopping for a while and focusing on something important to ourselves is becoming increasingly difficult. And without this it is very difficult to make a decision. After all, it is so important to think, analyze your situation, find and be disappointed in certain solutions, reach a dead end, and then again look for a way out of it. All of these are integral components of searching and making a decision. And if we do not give ourselves time, then decisions can be impulsive and thoughtless, based on a fleeting mood or...

Reliance on feelings

Somehow it turns out that in difficult situations our . Or there are so many “smart” thoughts that you can get lost in them; or the wind begins to blow through your head and your mind refuses to work. In this case, relying on your own feelings can help. Only this should be relying not on momentary emotions(joy, anger, fear, etc.), but for deep feelings that live in each of us. It is very easy for someone to hear the voice of these feelings within themselves, and they only need to listen to themselves, but for others it is completely unknown how to hear the wave of their feelings in the general noise enveloping the soul. I will share with you the advice of one of my friends, who told me how he does it. Personally, I really liked his advice.

So, first you will need to find a quiet place where you can retire. Once you have done this, find something nearby that you can focus your attention on. It’s better if it’s some kind of shiny object (it’s easier to focus on this for a long time). Sit comfortably, fix your gaze on this object, and while sitting like this, begin to gradually listen to yourself. To do this, imagine that inside you there is emptiness, silence, nothing. Listen to this silence and emptiness. Don't let your thoughts distract you from this silence. And if thoughts distract you, then simply notice what they are about and let them go. Gradually, something will begin to appear in this emptiness. Notice what comes to the surface. These are the feelings we are looking for. They can appear in the form of images, vague premonitions, sensations in the body. As soon as you notice something in yourself, try to listen to it and give your experiences the opportunity to unfold.

This whole procedure can be figuratively represented as follows. You are walking through the forest and you need to go out onto a road along which cars drive. This road is far away. You are walking and behind the crunch of branches and leaves under your feet, you cannot hear in which direction this road is. You stop and freeze to listen where the road is. And you don’t hear it right away, but only after a short period of time, when the ear adjusts to silence and hearing becomes more acute. It’s the same with feelings. You must first stop and stop all internal work, and then listen to where the “sound of your feelings” comes from within you.

If you manage to hear the voice of your feelings, hear your true desires, then this can provide support and the direction in which you would like to move. And if such a general direction becomes clear, then making a decision turns out to be much easier (and sometimes it simply becomes self-evident).

Self-deception test

An important guideline when making a decision can be feeling of inner agreement. This feeling can appear in reverse form, in the form feelings, if you refuse a decision, or, on the contrary, internally insist on the need to make it. Usually this feeling is similar to some kind of internal discomfort, something gnawing inside and tormenting, as if you were betraying yourself. It is very important to ask yourself difficult situation: “Why am I here? Why should I do such and such? What is the meaning of my decision? If you don't know what decision to make, then it's worth asking yourself about the meaning of the situation in which you are forced to make a decision. Why did you end up in it? Why did you come to it? By finding answers to these questions, you can better understand why you find yourself in a decision-making or choice situation. And after that, you can ask yourself whether you are betraying what you came to this situation for, and yourself at the same time, by choosing this or that solution.

Fighting doubts

It must be said that doubts often arise when if the decision is made under pressure(internal or external). If the decision is hard-won and internally matured, then doubts and regrets do not arise. Well, if the choice has not yet matured internally, but it needs to be made as soon as possible, then confusion and a desire to find the “right” solution appear. In such a state, any choice will be wrong. Such a decision will always be followed by a trail of regrets and doubts. There is only one way out here - to think about what forces you right now (“as soon as possible”) to make a choice and make a decision. More precisely, what doesn’t suit you about it? And here it is better to think about what else can be done to remove this internal dissatisfaction without radically changing the situation.

Generally speaking, best advice here - don't put pressure on yourself. Don't force yourself to make a decision. Allow yourself not to accept it. Relax. Be like a samurai who, with an unshakable spirit, stands on the edge of a cliff and looks at the blue sky, enjoying its beauty. Take your time and allow yourself to look at the situation a little.

Acceptance of sacrifice

In any choice, in any decision you, one way or another, forced to give up something. There is something important and valuable that must be sacrificed by choosing one alternative or another. You should be prepared for this. In order to experience the victim more effectively (so to speak), it is necessary to approach it with the awareness of what exactly are you losing. When you clearly understand what you are giving up, then it is easier for you to survive the consequences of making such a difficult decision.

In order to better understand what you will have to give up, try to complete the following sentence within yourself: “I will never again...”. By talking inside yourself about everything that you have to part with, you can, on the one hand, better understand the importance of this or that alternative and, on the other hand, gain courage and willingness to take responsibility for decision. One way to help you accept this sacrifice is to realize what you are paying for in the form of the benefits you are giving up. It's your choice, and for every life choice we must pay something and sacrifice something for the sake of something more valuable to us.

Final point

To give your decision more weight, you need to "pump him up with energy". How to do it? There are two options here. On the one hand, you can take one of the alternatives that you want to refuse and imagine the worst possible scenario. This can be done by saying to yourself the following words: “if I choose such and such, I will suffer from such and such all my life.” You can do it like this.

Or you can find the positive that is in the choice to which you are inclined, and keep it in your mind, in your imagination, keep it as a goal, as the lighthouse you want to lead your ship to. Can remember more often the good things you strive for, especially in moments of doubt and hesitation.

Tests "Management" for specialists. "Mechanical Engineering Technology"

Option #1

What character traits should such a manager archetype as an “administrator” have?

(A) Be sociable and be able to inspire people to give their best

(IN) Have an analytical mind

+(C) Be extremely objective and rely on facts and logic

(D) methodical work, forecasting the future

What are the main factors involved in Victor Vroom's model of motivation?

(A) The need for self-respect, self-affirmation and belonging social group

(IN) Complexity and intensity of work and level of remuneration

+(C) Anticipation of the possibility of an outcome, anticipation of the possible reward from that outcome, and anticipation of the value of the reward.

(D) hygiene factors, factors related to the nature and essence of work

Managers have real influence when managing by objectives

(A) Intermediate levels

(IN) Low level

(WITH) Higher, middle and lower level

+(D) top level

Indicate what is typical for the Japanese company “Sony” in the relationship between managers and subordinates?

(A) If possible, it is desirable for a person to remain in one workplace all his life, where he acquires certain experience, which accordingly increases work efficiency

+(V) Lack of differentiated treatment of people

(WITH) To work successfully in a company, it is important what educational institution The employee graduated and with what grades

(D) in front of everyone positive qualities freedom of discussion in a large company, it violates the work schedule

How should we react to the accumulation of information about the problem?

(A) The more information the better

+(V) Too much information is just as harmful as too little information

(WITH) Obtaining maximum information about the problem is the responsibility of the manager

(D) Excessive information is the key to success

Which one human needs is central to McClelland's theory of motivation?

+(A) Success

(IN) Money

(WITH) Liberty

(D) safety

Basic control functions

(A) Planning, control

+(V) Planning, organization, motivation, control

(WITH) Organization, motivation

(D) organization, motivation, control

8. An example of multi-link technology (Thompson classification) may be:

+(A) Mass production assembly line

(IN) Banking

(WITH) Insurance

(D) network diagram

The limit of automation use is

(A) The limitations of our knowledge

(IN) Qualification level of service personnel

+(C) Inability to exclude unforeseen situations

(D) imperfection of technology

What is a compromise when making a decision?

(A) Establishing a certain average as a result of a dispute between two employees

+(V) Reducing benefits in one area in order to reduce undesirable consequences in another

(WITH) By making an audit decision, taking into account the opinions of all interested parties

(D) reduction in benefits

What is the “Sociotechnical System” of an organization with high production technology?

(A) General computerization of production

(IN) Development social sphere

(WITH) Professional growth of employees

+(D) integration of personnel and technology, delegation of responsibility for the final result

12. The purpose of planning the organization’s activities is

(A) Cost justification

(IN) Justification of the timing

+(C) Determination of goals, forces and means

(D) justification of the number of employees

The main difference between an open system and a closed system is

(A) Lack of orderly interaction between individual subsystems

(IN) The presence of interaction between individual subsystems and outside world

(WITH) Closedness of system elements to themselves

+(D) presence of interaction with the external environment

(A) Salary

(IN) Career

+(C) The work itself

(D) recognition of the environment

15. The basic rule when determining the salary level is:

(A) Minimum level defined by law

(IN) The rate determined by the staffing table

(WITH) Pay levels at competing companies

+(D) absolutely accurate and objective determination of the nature of the labor invested and a comprehensive and impartial assessment of it

Option No. 2

The main thing in management by objectives is the development of goals

+(A) Top down the chain of command

(IN) Down up

(WITH) Bottom up and top down

(D) according to the matrix scheme

Determine the main characteristics of the external environment for the organization

+(A) All of the above

(IN) Interconnectedness of factors, complexity

(WITH) Complexity and fluidity

(D) interconnectedness and uncertainty

Why do you delegate your powers to other managers?

+(A) For an optimal solution to a complex problem

(IN) To maintain a “group” style of work

(WITH) To check the qualifications of workers

(D) all of the above

Which of the following methods of assigning responsibilities in an organization is adopted on a functional basis?

(A) Branches of the enterprise were created in five cities

+(V) Departments for production, marketing, personnel, financial issues were created

(WITH) Workshops have been created at the enterprise for the production of cookies, chocolates, caramels

(D) departments have been created at the enterprise, equal in number

Continuous manufacturing technology is commonly used in the production of products such as

(A) Production of passenger cars

(IN) Production of military aircraft

(WITH) Level ship construction

+(D) oil refining, iron smelting

Which Feedback is more important in terms of increasing the effectiveness of communication?

(A) Positive

(IN) Correlation

(WITH) Uncertain

+(D) negative

What does the economic management mechanism consist of?

+(A) All of the above

(IN) In-house management, production management

(WITH) Personnel management, production management

(D) intra-company management, personnel management

Action planning is

(A) Creating the next link between goal setting and a program for its implementation

(IN) Clarifying roles

(WITH) Identifying the circumstances that need to be taken into account to achieve the goal

(D) estimation of time spent for each operation

9. Of the listed managers: 1. General director and members of the board. 2. Heads of independent bodies. 3. Shop managers. The top management level includes:

(A) 1, 2

(WITH) 1, 2, 3

Control-oriented behavior is

+(A) Actions of subordinates aimed at what management wants to see when checking their activities

(IN) Focusing on low goals

(WITH) Taking advantage of the fact that controllers do not thoroughly know the activities of the employees subordinate to them

(D) high goal orientation

What does "make a decision" mean?

(A) Enumerate all possible alternatives

(IN) Enumerate several alternatives that provide the most effective solutions to the problem

(WITH) Give an order to select a possible alternative

+(D) give orders for the implementation of a specific plan

The life of each of us is an endless stream of decisions. You constantly have to choose: what to buy, how to spend the evening, what profession to choose, what deal to accept and what to reject, etc.

Fortunately, in most cases, making the right decision is quite simple. Our subconscious does not have to spend a lot of time choosing one of the options, since it is definitely better. But there are situations when it is not clear which of the chosen options will bring more benefit and less harm.

Remember the legendary film “The Matrix”, when Morpheus asked Neo to choose one of the pills. From the outside it may seem that choosing freedom and life in reality was easier and more correct than forgetting everything and continuing to exist in a fairy tale. In fact, most people choose the other side in their lives.

But we're getting a little off topic. So, there are situations when it is not easy to make the right decision. Each of the possible options has a lot of advantages and even more disadvantages that we would not like to receive. In addition, each of the options will have a lot of consequences that we could not even imagine.

2 approaches to decision making

There are two ways that can help us make a choice. We have used each of them in our lives, it’s just that some people choose one more often, others more often use the second.

1. When to turn on logic?

Careful consideration of possible options and their consequences is characteristic of making logical decisions. Using this approach, we can weigh the pros and cons, analyze the possible benefits and losses of each of the possible options.

The logical approach is best used in situations where there is a lot of input data and most of the consequences are easily predicted. As a rule, this approach is best used in business and in any other business areas of life, in cases where the possible risks are very high.

2. When to use intuition?

Often we find ourselves in a situation where it is almost impossible to imagine further development events. There is no past experience corresponding to similar situations, and there is no way to extract and analyze information from other sources. And you need to make a decision quickly, since “delay is like death.”

In this case, there is nothing left to do but listen to your intuition and make a quick and unambiguous choice. All the same, we will not be able to make any accurate forecasts.

The need to make such decisions almost always arises in personal life and in everything related to human feelings and emotions.

Regardless of which approach you prefer, I recommend that you adhere to the following five principles to help you make the right decision:

Principle 1. Never rely on “maybe”. Always make your own decision.

Don't wait for everything to work itself out or for someone else to do it for you. Indecision is also a decision, but in this case you are no longer in control of the situation, and therefore have no power over your life. Often people put off making a decision until there are no more equivalent options worthy of consideration, and this is no longer a decision.

Consciously making a decision, even an unpleasant one, will prepare you in advance to accept its consequences and, most likely, it will be easier for you to cope with its negative consequences. And maybe you can even find a way to get rid of some of the problems associated with this.

Principle 2. Make a decision quickly.

By postponing the decision until later, we usually increase our bet in this game. As a rule, intuition tells us the best ways, but intuition only works for a short time, then all your past experience, fears, doubts and other nonsense that your brain is loaded with comes into play. All this only clutters our consciousness and pushes us to mistakes.

The sooner you can decide on your choice, the more time you will have to prepare for it. negative consequences. There will be time to “spread the straw”, as a result, you will be able to extract more benefit from the path you have chosen.

Principle 3. Once you make a decision, start acting immediately and don’t stop.

Nothing delays achieving your goals more than procrastination. Having once postponed the implementation of your decisions, it will not be difficult for you to postpone in the future, and this risks the fact that you will never achieve the goals for which you made the decision. Often, what we thought about and decided to do is forgotten after a few days. No one has yet canceled the long box - it is in it that all our greatest achievements are stored.

Principle 4. Don't change your mind halfway through the process.

Achieving any result requires time and effort. There is no point in expecting that the result will come easily and quickly. And if you constantly change your decisions, then all this will be similar to Brownian motion (the chaotic movement of the molecules of a substance, in which the substance itself does not move anywhere) and no result will definitely come.

Get it into your head that you can only get results by reaching the end.

If you decide to become rich, then follow through. If after a week you decide that this is difficult and it’s better to become healthy. Stop saving money and start eating right. In another week you will stop eating vegetables, because... you want barbecue, and decide to be beautiful by playing sports. Then you can continue on your own.

Principle 5. The most important. Never regret your decision.

Often people believe that they have made the wrong decision. It was necessary to act differently. The trick is that you will never be able to find out whether you did the right thing, because... impossible to check. Always consider your choice to be the only correct one.

For example, you bought a car, and a week later its engine broke down. My first thought was that I had to buy another one, but on the other, at the most inopportune moment, the brakes could fail. What would be better?

In fact, making the right decision is not difficult, it is much more difficult to take responsibility for its consequences! Follow the given rules, they will help you and get outstanding results.

Good luck, Dmitry Zhilin

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Most of all, inflexible people who suffer from failures find it difficult to adapt and act according to circumstances. But our path is not always smooth and spacious. Therefore, the first piece of advice is to relieve yourself of the burden of excessive responsibility. A person is designed in such a way that in any situation he can find both joy and disappointment. Even if you have achieved your "goal", it may always seem that "the palace is too small and the molasses is too sweet."

So, which one you won't regret? First of all, try to trust fate and intuition. Very often we hesitate and doubt if there is some difference, for example, between reason and feelings, between desires and duty. But this situation is also an incentive for development. And intuition, which we often underestimate or drown out, is what helps us make the right decision. You should not think that this is something supernatural, a “voice from above.” It’s more likely that your subconscious processes the situation in its own way. Our elementary, physiological reactions often tell us where we will feel good and where we won’t feel so good. For example, if you are looking for a new job, listen to your intuition. If a conversation with your future boss puts you in a positive mood, this is a good start. But if the building itself, the atmosphere reigning there, the appearance and manner of communication of the employees cause tension and depressing, if you do not feel comfortable in this place - perhaps this is a warning.

How to make the right decision in your personal life? The advice is the same. Don't try to reason, plan, think in lofty categories. Just feel the situation, immerse yourself in your feelings. The first minutes often decide how communication with this or that person will turn out. And if we are comfortable, we feel safe, this means this relationship has a future. And vice versa, if we find it difficult to find common topics, if we are constrained, but, for example, the thought has stuck in our minds that this is an excellent game, try to trust our intuition. We live with the person, and not with his status, money or position in society.

Another technique will tell you how to learn to make the right decisions. This method can be called “look into the future.” The point is to try to imagine the possible development of events in as much detail as possible,

which will follow your choice. Are you offered a job, but you don't know whether to take it? Imagine yourself in this place in as much detail and color as possible in a year, two, five. What does your typical working day look like, how do you dress, how do you relax? Do you enjoy entering the office or do you try to come up with excuses to avoid appearing there as little as possible? By imagining this, you subconsciously prepare yourself to make a decision.

And perhaps the most well-known and effective method is to “sleep” with the problem. By asking yourself a question in the evening before going to bed, in the morning you will receive a ready answer. The subconscious or intuition will do all the work for you. Sometimes a conversation with a disinterested stranger helps. By speaking out loud all your arguments and doubts, you thereby come to a decision. Good luck to you!